How to talk to your family
You have a serious mental illness. You want to have a discussion with your parents about things they do that bother you. Past conversations with your parents have turned into an argument. You want to find a way not to let this happen. What is the best way for you do this?
Step 1. Prepare for a meeting with your parents.
Make a list of two or three things that your family does that really bother you.
Your list might look like this:
Step 2. What to do when you meet with your parents.
Step 3. Talk about why each of you feels the way you do.
Step 4. Talk about the things that each of you could do to change the things that bother you.
Your parents say they did not know doing these things bothered you. They felt they were helping you out by doing these things and assumed you did not mind. They tell you they were only trying to be as supportive as possible.
Step 5. Develop a plan of action with your parents of what each of you can do to make things better.
Your action plan might look something like this:
Step 6. Agree on a plan with your parents.
John and his parents agree that they will hang the “New Rules” on the refrigerator door as a reminder to everyone of what they have agreed to do.
Step 7. Meet in a week or two to discuss how the plan is working.
Step 8. If the plan is not working, either for you or your parents, go back to Step 4 and try again.
Discuss other things that each of you might do to change the things that are still bothersome. Then work through Steps 5, 6 and 7 again.